I’m not sure where I first heard the term joy body or even if it has a specific meaning, but it clicks with how I look at the world. Over this holiday season having some free time on my hands, I’ve been wondering about it, the joy body that is. As we come to the end of one year and prepare for a new one, I’ve found myself wondering if there comes a time in our lives when our bodies are so aged and gone, or riddled with problems, that we can no longer feel physical joy and ecstasy? Do we lose touch with that wonderful mystical dance that permeates everything, the dance of eros? Or, do we enter it in a way that is beyond the physical? The meta-physical?
For now, I am happy to put those musings off to the side since I count myself among the fortunate at being very much in my body and able to experience the physical ecstasies of eros. Nevertheless, these thoughts make me appreciate that there is more to eros and joy than simply physical ecstasy – that eros is a state that can be experienced through so many ways from a celibate mystical connection to a drug induced trip. Still, my preference is for the beauty of touch, the wonder that is two people entwining their bodies to bring pleasure to each other. Given that there are so many ways to experience eros, it must be a natural state for us to be in – that the joy body is as natural and essential to us as is oxygen.
As I have written elsewhere in these pages, there is a sacred quality to touch; that Sacred Intimacy is about aligning touch and intentionality; and that it is a healing experience producing a sense of wholeness. It’s a radical idea, an idea that does not want to be contained by social and religious regulations constricting sexual/physical connections between people. Sacred Intimacy is powerful precisely because it is so universal and about being made whole through touch at a deeply intimate level. At its core, SI is about the opening of love from one person to another, and that is the most powerful force there is.
Our bodies have truly amazing powers and engaging in a Sacred Intimate relationship with another is among the most primal of experiences we can have. We strip away those things that separate us, our clothes, and open our entire bodies for connecting. What begins as sweet gentle brushings, then grows more intense, bodies merging with each other, lips connecting, excitement building to a bittersweet eruption ringed in tinges of pain and ecstasy, then bliss, maybe even sleep. With each such experience, there is a subtle but deep shift in us. Something has changed, we reach a different state which I have likened to the Shavasana at the end of a yoga session.
Through each SI experience, we have been made a little bit more whole. Words cannot describe such things. We cannot comprehend what has happened, it’s too primal for that – but, we can sense it. Yet, because these experiences are so primal, they are a necessary part of our lives as spiritual and sensate beings, and why the feelings of healing and wholeness are an integral part of them. This is the joy body, the body we should pay more attention to and nurture with greater care. As we head into a new year, what better resolution can we have than to focus on these things that heal us and make us more whole.