To Cut, Or Not…?

To cut, that is the question – if I may play with the Bard’s head ;). For sure, it is a question I have long wondered about, and I am hardly alone here. So, why has the practice of cutting off that luscious inch been so pervasive? When Jason in response to my posting, Skin, suggested I write something about foreskin, I thought why not? When I think of foreskin, what jumps to mind now is this question of to cut or not to cut. Well Jason, this one’s for you! Thanks for the suggestion.

One of the things I find to be really weird about male circumcision is how readily such a large number of people accept it – no doubt most of whom would recoil at the thought of female genital mutilation. Just why do so many people not feel the same sense of outrage when it comes to male mutilation? I am sure the age old cultural and religious conditioning around circumcision plays a major role here because the trimming of the male member is a widespread practice that cuts (excuse the pun) across racial, ethnic, and geographic lines. Outside of religious mythology, the main argument seems to have been about cleanliness, but that is easily solved with regular and thorough washing. Of course there are the cases of tight fits, but these can be dealt with surgically or at worst with a full cut – sorry guys, I even feel my hand making a self-protective grab for the crotch on that one!!

When I think of the pleasures of skin, they burst into bloom when I think of that luscious inch. You would think we would do everything possible to protect that little stretch of ecstasy. Everything, that is, if religions and societies were not threatened by sexuality. As with the practice of female circumcision, I think that the lopping off of men’s sweet bits was seen as a way of decreasing sexual pleasure, which certainly fits with a lot of cultural and religious prejudices against partaking too fully of earthly delights. All I can say is bollux to those who feel we are here to suffer. Life comes with enough pain as it is, and for that very reason we should be enjoying as much pleasure as possible.

It’s time to end this barbaric practice and to debunk all the religious hocus-pocus that has ennobled the culture of cutting – it’s pure poppycock. We should not be afraid of experiencing pleasure for pleasure’s sake. Here’s to foreskins and the joys they bring. They are fun to play with, they help to keep the glans nice and sensitive, they deliver on lubrication, and they taste great! The foreskin is but the tip of the iceberg, so to speak, but it tells us a lot about our attitudes towards sexuality. Whether or not you still have yours intact, the important thing is to ennoble all of our fleshly delights by opening ourselves up to the juicy physical pleasures of life with as many people as we want to share these with.


Gay Kama Sutra: More Thoughts

It sounds contradictory to think of eros as a practice, but it is not so far fetched as you may think. In other posts, I have compared it to yoga with the similarities they have in combining a variety of positions and sequences in an ebb and flow with the culmination in an ecstatic physical-spiritual state. OK, so you and your partner are buck naked and stroking all the good bits, maybe even having a squirt or two. While that is very cool, sadly it is why we tend not to think of the erotic as something to practice openly with people we are either not in love or lust with. I say sad because there are many people with whom we are compatible, loving, and with whom it would be rewarding to develop such a rich and rewarding practice.

As these thoughts bubble up, I find myself thinking of the Kama Sutra and the kind of integration it sets out for cultivating a sexual dimension that is key to living a good, healthy, and balanced life. For most of us, myself included, if we even look at the Kama Sutra our focus is on the drawings of sexual positions – no surprise there. The other chapters deal with integrating the sexual into a life that neither address the homoerotic nor contemporary lives we lead. Nevertheless, there is value in thinking about erotic exploration as an essential element in the art of living.

A Gay Kama Sutra is about finding ways to accept ourselves in the face of widespread condemnation. It’s about bringing balance into our lives, affirming our right to be, and keeping our erotic connections alive and healthy. If we are to have any depth at all, it is vital for us to be in touch with our unique erotic rhythms – it’s like adding another layer of counterpoint in a fugue.

Life is a multidimensional blending of joys, sorrows, and contradictions – without the erotic, though, there is much less depth. Leading a good life is about navigating through the challenges of finding love, opening ourselves to others, and sharing the hot times full of inspiration along with the mundane. Touch, sex, and orgasm are key components on our journey, and just as equally so are kindness and compassion.

If I were to do a film version of a Gay Kama Sutra, it would look a lot like Short Bus. One of the film’s truly amazing aspects is that it was a group project by people who were largely outside the  acting profession and who were brought together to develop an explicit film on sexual life. Over a period of a couple of years, they wrote the script collectively as it evolved from their interactions with each other. The end result is a mirror on life that does not shrink from displaying human suffering, relational problems, and sexual joy along with sexual inhibitions. At journey’s end is an upbeat celebration replete with orgasms, a funky band, and an ensemble march as Justin Bond sings We All Get It In The End which you can check out on YouTube: