It has a nice sound to it, the Tao of Touch – and for me if something sounds right there is something true about it. So as I think on it, I wonder why should we not have touch as a pathway through life? And, one that is as valid as any religion – touch makes a lot more sense to me. When I think of some of the greatest moments of pleasure, peace, and serenity I have had, they have been through the experience of touch. Peace and serenity certainly are things that religions profess to provide but for me are not able to deliver on. Pleasure, sadly, seems to be another matter altogether that most faiths try to suppress through fear as they seek to bind up the body and cloak it in shame. A Tao of Touch is about opening our bodies in positive and life affirming ways – it’s about intimacy, and true intimacy at that.
Touch is perhaps the most effective means of communication we humans have. So powerful is it that a gesture as simple as the placing of a hand on the shoulder of another can disarm adversaries. In the simple act of two people touching each other, all the differences built up by cultures and religions melt away through the act of feeling each other’s humanity. Where culture and religion seek to divide and control people, touch unites us. As such, it is one of the most spiritual experiences we can have – and yes, one of the most carnal.
We are at our best when we are naked, naked with others, and, when appropriate, sharing each other’s bodies in all levels of touch. It is in such moments that we are truly human because we are most united with others. Where cultures and religions separate and divide us, through touch our bodies bring us together. There is great wisdom here which has been hard wired into our DNA – precisely why touch is so very powerful and sacred. Because touch brings us together, it defies our neat little categories about gender and sexual identity – no need to expound on why so much fear has been associated with it.
The Tao of Touch begins with loving kindness towards ourselves as we exist in our bodies. It is about the beauty, freedom, and connectedness we have when we are on a nude beach, when we massage someone, when we share an orgasm. Little wonder that times such as these are the most memorable in my life, and no doubt for you as well. These are the moments when we are most alive – most human. When we are the most human, we are also the most spiritual. For me, any culture or religion that limits such interactions in any way is anti human and to be avoided. Throw off the straight jackets and get into your touch body. From there on, it will find its path through the world.