The Body Erotic

Touch is the language of intimacy, it speaks loudest and clearest when we step outside of the chatter of words and into the sounds of silence, here’s to you Simon and Garfunkel. Silence not only has its sounds but feel as well. When we get into that space beyond words where our living and pulsating bodies come together, touch takes over as its unique vocabulary awakens. Its words are not just in our fingers but in every fibre of our bodies, and they become clear to us only when we can calm the chatter in our minds long enough to let our bodies speak.

Our bodies know how to speak the language of Eros, and become fluent with surprisingly little practice. The vocabulary of Eros is inherent in all of us and transcends verbal language barriers. Even if it is a first time encounter, we quickly get to know the other person as we explore his terrain with our hands, lips, and body. Instinctively, we take note of all the different textures, smells, sounds, and tastes. The language of moans, body movements, and ripples of energy being released tell us multitudes about each other as we build pleasure for ourselves.

Eros is like a door into another dimension. For me, it opens most profoundly through silence and bridging the gap with another man through touch. Once we are in touch space, identities we have in the rational, word centered world lose their relevance. Gay, straight, bi, etc. seem to no longer matter, it is simply two of us journeying naked into each other’s body that makes sense. We are alive and electric with erotic energy guiding us into realms of wonder. This is the space of sacred intimacy that has been praised to the roof tops from the time we emerged out of the seas, and there was no doubt a submarine version of it in our even more distant past.

We were built to be erotic, to live erotic, to speak erotic. The vocabulary of Eros is within us if only we can let it breathe freely. For me, Eros also exits beyond touch. It’s there in Bach, Beethoven, Leonard Cohen, van Gogh, to name but a few. It’s an energy that bathes life in its lushness regardless of it being through touch, sound, taste, sight, or smell. Even though it is around touch that we have some of our harshest restrictions, Eros is a powerful force that is totally adept at inspiring us to say no to the limitations of taboos. Every time I engage with another man in intimate touch, I revel in the feelings of aliveness that we both have. Not only do we celebrate life as we enliven our energies towards orgasm, but equally profoundly in the post orgasmic glow that engulfs us as we linger in each other’s embrace.


10 thoughts on “The Body Erotic

  1. I really love this post

    Do you think that for bottom guys, touch is more important?

    Being a bottom, for me touch is very important, but lots of top guys don’t have the patience for it, or even don’t enjoy it that much

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    • What an interesting idea! I’ve never thought of it, something about it makes sense. I’m versatile, probably a little more of a bottom, maybe that is linked to love of touch? Thanks for your compliment, glad you like the post, and thanks for this thought, worth thinking about!!!

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    • Coming from someone who’s mostly top (historically speaking that is), touch has always been a very important factor in the way and extent of which I enjoy sex. That’s just my two cents;)

      Loved this post btw. Made me think about one of my earlier sexual experiences with someone who didn’t speak my language. Touch played a very important (and pleasant) part of our communication.
      One of the things I often find lacking in sex is touch. I’m talking about the kind of guys you meet for the explicit purpose of having sex. It’s almost as if many guys fear the intimacy of touch. I guess we don’t start feeling our nakedness until someone touches our nakedness…

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      • Thanks so much for this observation. I think you are right on with the comment on fear of intimacy and touch. More than what positions we tend to favor, I think you are getting at the core of the issue. I’ve been there myself, so I know the feelings of fear around intimacy and touch, and the kind of journey it takes to move beyond such things. Glad you spoke up for tops who love touch! I like what you said about feeling our nakedness, that’s the point when we really begin to get it right.

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      • Just today a top guy said he wants to lick my ass for hours, spoil my hole, and give me every pleasure I just want

        Sounds like this guy is the opposite of what you wrote : “It’s almost as if many guys fear the intimacy of touch”

        Unfortunately not

        Then he said : “I don’t kiss outside of a relationship, that implies that I have feeling towards you”


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      • WTF is right, I’m with you. If I’m being intimate with someone, I want to use all of my body including my lips. Interesting that he could kiss your anal mouth for hours but not the one on your face. I love that people don’t easily fit into neat little categories, but these kinds of things do make me wonder???? Yes, WTF!

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      • Yeah, I know the type (I call them ‘type’, because I find them fairly predictable)…rimming, sucking and whatnot is not placed on the continuum of touching or intimacy, but rather as a sexual exercise that could almost be treated as a formality. I don’t mean to judge, but I don’t think these people understand their own sexuality, or sexuality in general, very well. Kiss the guy and see if he falls for you;)


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